Updated: Aug 27
We form relationships everywhere we go, they may be fleeting, or more well established. One thing they all have in common is, people see you more than you think they do in all those relationships. Your mind may tell you that you exist in a bubble for one but it simply isn't true.
The last few times I have been taken by surprise has been down to someone close pointing out something I thought had gone unnoticed. Whether this being that I've put myself last, taken on too much or that I'm stepping up and doing what it takes to take care of my family. All of the things I thought had slipped under the radar, but they didn't.
You think you have it all handled, hidden and you present as the swan gliding on the surface. That's not reality. Just because others don't draw attention to things, doesn't mean they don't notice them. With this insight, I ask you to consider the things you doing and trying to remain unnoticed. Ask yourself why this is the case.
Often it's because we don't want to show weakness or vulnerability. Could your relationship be strengthened by showing vulnerability and talking about how you feel? What is you showed your true self and asking for help when you need it?
If this feels familiar and it's something you find hard, working on what's stopping you is a great start. Your relationship will thank you for it later down the line. There is amazing power in sharing your whole self with the world.
Are you ready to begin? It's time to step out of the shadows.
I know how challenging relationships can be and how exhausting it is when things don't feel right. It is emotionally draining and you can feel so alone. Don't suffer, if you need support make the first step, and start today, with a no-obligation chat. I'm sure you feel better once you say things out loud.
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